How have you been impacted by COVID-19?

Is it just me, or has this crisis forced you too, to interact more, or less than you’re used to? What if how MUCH we communicate is more important than HOW we communicate at this time?

I'd like to invite you to try our free introductory XY ConneXion Tests. They’re different because they let you know whether your loved ones need as much Interaction as you do, or whether you’re pushing them away.

X Types have a higher need to connect in specific ways
Y Types have a lower need

COVID-19 did not only damage our health or devastate our economy. It wrecked havoc on many of our relationships. We were forced by this pandemic to socialize less but interact more and sometimes with very adverse effects.

But it doesn’t have to be this way. If you know for instance that to maintain your bond with me, you didn’t need to call every day but only once a week, that would actually help our friendship. Some couples are complaining that they never expected to feel this lonely while everyone is at home.

What are the XY Connexion™ Personality Tests?

The XY ConneXion™  Personality Tests measure personality trait for Communication, Intimacy, Connectivity and Social/ Emotional ConneXion.

We connect with each other in many different ways, but to enjoy at least a Basic ConneXion with those you care about, you should connect in compatible ways.

The FREE personality tests include assessments of all four dimensions. 

Discovering what each person in your living situation needs to maintain their connections will absolutely be helpful. Now let’s take a look at what these test results mean. The best way to understand the XY ConneXion™ approach is to observe your children or  try to remember how you connected as a child.

XY Communication

Some children are very talkative. You couldn’t get them to shut up if you tried. That was my story, at least as a child. My parents couldn’t silence me if they paid me. But if you have that child or you know a  child that you could not even bribe to have a conversation with you, then you understand X and Y Communication. Keep in mind that X simply means high need while while Y type means low.

XY Intimacy

Now think about intimacy. For this type of connection you have to think about behavior before or after puberty. Behavior changes during puberty and will not give you a good gauge on XY Intimacy. But before that period you could identify the touchy-feely child (X type). It’s easy to get a hug from him or her. Whereas another child might treat you like you had the plague just for asking. That would your Y type child in the area of intimacy.

XY Connectivity

Then there is the child who loves to be around you, love to be in the room where you’re at, but isn’t necessarily interacting. They might be on social media on their phone and doesn’t mind your being around but isn’t necessarily communicating with you. They just enjoy spending time with you. How much of this closeness or space, one needs to feel connected with you, is a measure of Connectivity. Therefore another way to look at connectivity is to consider whether someone needs more distance and alone time versus closeness and time with you. or attention from you

XY Social/Relational ConneXion

Lastly, some children are homebodies, preferring to connect with significant others at home versus needing to hang out with friends on the outside. Again, excluding puberty, this gives you an idea of how your child prioritizes Social ConneXion over Relational bonds.